1. Always overlooked – One complaint I got was that nice guys seemed to be always overlooked. This idea must stem from a preconceived notion that nice guys aren’t daring. The thought process could also be that nice guys are too strait-laced.
2. Deemed as bad in bed – I can personally attest to this. There was a time years back where a woman thought I was too nice. We ended up sleeping together and the next day she said “you surprised me.” I asked her why and she told me because I was a nice guy she thought I would be less assertive in bed. I was taken aback and maybe a little insulted. This feeling quickly passed because it was good, but you get my point. To assume a guy is whack in bed with no real barometer to measure it wouldn’t be the smartest thing to do. As a woman, you might be cheating yourself out of something real good.
3. Permanent estate in the friend zone – On this site especially, we have had a healthy dose of discussion about the good old friend zone. It might be safe to say that women find safety with nice guys. He may be a great listener and extremely insightful. But at the same time, those might be some qualities of a man you should take more seriously. Now if you just don’t like a guy in a more than platonic way, make it crystal clear.
4. Kindness is mistaken for weakness – No one wants to be taken advantage of. We men are extremely pride-driven in most things that we do. Being taken advantage of is something that would anger anyone. In a man’s case, he’s even that much more inclined to want to get even some how. This piggybacks on my point earlier about nice guys becoming dogs. Respect guys who respect you and you will be rewarded.
Do you agree with these reasons?
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