Sometimes in a relationship you’ll find that you are doing everything possible to make sure that things continue to go well. And while your intentions are nothing but good, sometimes becoming overbearing and overstepping in a relationship can do more harm than good. Though it may sound crazy, there are times when you may be doing too much. Here are 15 sign’s that you’re an overbearing girlfriend who is probably coming off as just a tad parched.
Via Madame Noire
1. YOU’RE IN TOUCH WITH HIM 24/7
Every morning there’s a text on his phone. During your lunch break you run to your car to call him. At night you make sure you call him to wish him good dreams. Staying in touch around the clock is a big no-no, and it shows that you’re becoming really needy and clingy. Guys tend to hate when a girl becomes clingy, so definitely cut back on the communication.
2. YOU RARELY CALL HIM BY HIS REAL NAME
After dating for a couple weeks, you’ve completely almost forgotten what his real name is. Instead, you’ve switched to calling him “baby,” “babe,” “boo,” and every other pet name under the sun. Pet names are cute when they’re used in moderation but when you’re calling him your boo when you’ve only been dating him for a few weeks, now is a good time to apply the brakes.
3. NO IS NEVER AN ANSWER
No matter what your guy needs you to do, you’ve never said no. If he needs you to do his laundry for the weekend, you happily say yes, even if you had other plans. Saying no in a relationship is never a bad thing and not saying no enough means that you’re clearly putting your relationship ahead of everything and everyone else.
4. YOU ACT LIKE HIS PERSONAL ASSISTANT
When you’re in a relationship it’s always nice to do nice things for your guy. If he has to work late, it’s a good gesture to swing by his house and make him a quick meal. However, when you’re cooking all of his food, letting him use your car, and taking over his finances, you’re doing way too much. Act like a girlfriend instead of a personal assistant who is aiming to please.
5. FACEBOOK HAS BECOME YOU+HIM BOOK
Anytime you guys go out to dinner, there’s a status about it and plenty of pictures to follow. Your guy gave you some flowers? It’s on Facebook immediately. When your Facebook becomes the story of your relationship, there’s a problem. And though it may sound harsh, no one (except you) cares that much about your relationship. Keep some things private!
6. YOU DO THINGS EVEN WHEN HE DOESN’T WANT YOU TO
Just like you, your man likes not only doing things for you, but doing things for himself. You offer to do something, such as pack him a lunch or clean his room, and he declines, but you still do it anyway. Things like this may be appreciated the first few times, but after awhile they get old, quickly. Your guy is going to feel like he’s losing his independence.
7. YOUR NUMBER OF FRIENDS IS SLOWLY DECLINING
Though you may not think it with this newly found relationship, your best friends are definitely more important. But, when you’re overstepping in a relationship, you’ll find that you’re spending less time with your friends and instead you’re only making plans to be around your man as much as possible. Being around each other is a good thing, but being around your guy too much can lead you down the road of getting sick of seeing each other.
8. YOU START NOT CARING ABOOUT HOW YOUR LADIES FEEL
Once you’ve brushed them off a couple of times, your friends are bound to feel a little hurt, sad, and probably angry. However, you’re so entwined with your man that their emotions just don’t matter at this point in time. When you’re too involved, your friendships will get the brunt of the pain. Don’t let it happen!
9. YOU NEVER SHARE YOUR OPINION
When it comes to dates, eating out, and going to the movies, all of the decisions are made by him. Even when he asks where you’d like to go to eat or what movie you’d like to see, you always turn it back around on him and say that it’s his choice. If this hasn’t annoyed you yet, it’s probably started to annoy him!
10. HIS FRIENDS ARE NOW YOUR BFFS
So you meet a few of his closest friends and everything goes well; great! The next day you’re adding all of them on Facebook and chatting them up about days when you can hang out with them. It’s always nice to get along with your man’s friends, but there’s no need to hang out with them every weekend. If you want to earn their approval, do it slowly.
11. YOU SPEND A LOT OF MONEY ON HIM
Being a cheap girlfriend isn’t the way to go, but spending a lot of money on your man isn’t always the wisest thing to do either. For Valentine’s Day you buy him the most expensive watch you can find and for Christmas the tree is decorated with dozens of presents just for him. Spending too much on a guy and not following set monetary limits not only makes him look bad, but it’s probably not good for your bank account either.
12. YOU THINK YOU’RE DOING TOO MUCH
The relationship is a little exhausting. Your every thought centers around him and nothing else. You find yourself questioning if you’re doing too much. If you ever start to think that you’re going overboard, you probably are. When the thought pops into your head, don’t hesitate to slow things down a bit.
13. YOU GIVE HIM A LOT OF RANDOM GIFTS
Gifts on certain holidays are usually expected in most relationships, but you find yourself buying him a present almost every day of the week. You’ve started celebrating some of the most useless days around. While random presents are always appreciated, giving your man a gift every week or every month is a bit overboard.
14. YOU’VE FORGOTTEN ABOUT YOU
Remember that a relationship involves two people, not just one? When you’ve become super overbearing and doing way too much, you’ll find that you barely give yourself any me time. Instead you’re always focused on your man: being around him, talking to him, and so on. Don’t lose yourself in a relationship or else you’re setting it up for failure.
15. YOU’RE TRYING TO BECOME PART OF HIS FAMILY
There is absolutely nothing wrong with meeting your man’s family, in fact, it’s a good thing, and it shows that your relationship is serious. On the flip side, there is no need to try to force yourself into his family. Don’t go buying every one of his cousins a Christmas gift and don’t refer to yourself as “Aunt” or “Daughter.” Instead of forcing your way in, give his family time to accept you and invite you into their world.