We constantly hear about women of a certain age who become consumed by the silently loud ticking of their biological clocks. Constant societal reminders of the fact that we won’t be able to reproduce forever can sometimes send us into a frenzy, which tends to manifest in our dating lives. But if you ask 43-year-old actress Nia Long what she thinks about the constant pressure that women place themselves under to get married and reproduce by a certain age, she’ll tell you to relax and realize that none of this will happen before the appointed time.
“I think that women who are extremely driven to success, ambitious, I think they get to a point in their lives where they’re like, ‘Uh oh. I am 30-something years old, and I don’t have a husband and I don’t have children yet and what does that mean?’ I think what it means is stay in your course because it’s going to happen when it’s supposed to happen,” Nia said during an interview with Rolling Out.
“It doesn’t happen for everyone at the same time, so you can’t compare your life to someone else’s,” The Best Man Holiday actress added.
In addition to advising women to take the pressure off of themselves, Nia also encourages that they be open minded, because love may not always show up in the way that you expect it to.
“You have to have an open heart to be vulnerable to accept it when it does come. I think the more success you have as a woman, you kinda go, ‘Well, I don’t really need a man ’cause look: I have everything I want, but the truth is you do need a partner because at some point in your life you’re not going to want to walk alone.”
The 43-year-old beauty gave birth to her second son, Kez, a couple of years ago and remains in a relationship with her NBA coach boyfriend, Ime Udoka. Though the couple have been exclusively for some time now, Nia has gone on account several times saying that she’s in no rush to get married.