In an interview with iFelicious, Fantasia dished on her past and current relationship with her baby daddy, Antwaun Cook. She also spoke out on Internet bullying and much more about her personal life and past drama:
On Her Relationship With Her Ex Antwaun Cook
You only heard what you heard, you only got what you got. But you never got to see that real love and that relationship, that friendship that we had. They kept running with this whole knowledge thing, and she stole somebody from some woman…Well, if everybody really looks at it and goes and does their research, I won that case. So obviously, if I won that case, it never was what they said it was. But once something gets out there, people believe everything they hear, or they just put their own twist, their own spin to it…Regardless of what you say, he’s still my son’s father. I still do love him. No, we’re not together, but he’s still a great father, a great friend, and nobody’s gonna change that.
On Internet Bullying
I sit and I watch these commercials. Especially when I’m home, I watch TV with my kids and I watch Disney. These commercials are about bullying in school and the sad part is the industry and the internet has become another form of bullying. It’s not about the artist anymore. It’s not about the music anymore. It’s just about I want to know what you do on your down time. I want to know who you’re dating. I want to catch you slipping.
It’s not about the music anymore. It’s about what kind of dirt can I dig up, what can I find out about you, where can I find you in the street or in the grocery store and zoom in on that zit that you got from wearing makeup and doing a whole press release and makeup effects your skin, how can I zoom in on that zit and make you look like the ugliest person in the world. Those are the kinds of things I look at and just shake my head. They have made artists unreal. We’re not human anymore. They make us like we don’t have feelings. They make us like we don’t have angry days and sad days. And they totally ignore the music and they focus on things like that. I’m a soul singer so I put my passion into my music. Are you gonna get that or are you just trying to figure out who I’m sleeping with next week?
On being hurt by the Industry
The industry was the main thing that hurt me. It wasn’t really the relationship. It was the world. It was me having to turn on my TV and seeing my name all over CNN, TMZ, all over the blogs, all over radio station. That hurt me the most. Some of the main people that sat and voted for me and said that they loved me, they were fickle. And stuff started happening, and people believed what they wanted to believe. And as far as putting all types of stuff out, that hurt me the most. But the industry hurt me the most…I never understood how someone could love you so much at one point, and then months down the line, everybody is against you, everybody’s trying to make a mockery of you.
On What Advice She Would Give Her Younger Self Just Stepping Into the Business
Watch people. Watch everyone that says they love you. Watch everyone that says they’re gonna help you. Always be in control of your stuff. Always read your contracts. Always know what you’re walking into, and always look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself who you are. Tell yourself how beautiful you are. Love yourself. Don’t rely on somebody else to give you that love. Always go after everything that you want, not what everybody else thinks you should do. Stay strong. Stay true to yourself. Watch friendships. Watch relationships. Protect your money. Make sure that you know what’s going in and what’s going out. Make sure you keep good people around and not ‘yes’ people, but people who actually care for you and adore you and don’t want to see anything happen to you. That don’t want nothing from you but just to see you grow and to be the best woman you can be.
She also dished a little tea on her upcoming video, “Without Me” featuring Missy Elliott and Kelly Rowland.
[Missy Elliott and I] have been up all night creating this amazing video for ‘Without Me’ which is with me, Kelly Rowland, and Missy…jotting down all these ideas I have for the video. I’ve never really directed my own video so Missy Elliott allowed me to come in with her and co-direct it and work on the concept. We’re both Cancer women so we both think out the box. We go a little crazy sometimes, but I’m very excited for what we’ve come up with.