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Do you think that you can tell when someone is cheating? Well there definitely are some signs that you might want to look out for if you’re suspicious. Check out the list below.
1. Their Phone or Computer
The number one giveaway is technology. A partner who is protective about their phone is a red flag, especially if this is new behavior. If your boyfriend is on his phone a lot, and hiding it from you, you may have a problem. And if you think that would be super obvious, well the bad news is cheaters can suddenly become very tech-savvy. In this day and age, the technologically advanced cheater is likely to have apps that hide contact with their side piece. It’s not just Ashley Madison you should be looking for. Some Apps that range from seemingly benign to oh shit, are: WhatsApp (encrypted messaging), Private Photo (an app that looks like a calculator icon but is really a secret file to hide sexy pics), Fox Private Message (an app that, upon shaking the phone, erases all previous text messages), and Nosy Trap (which takes a photo of you, when you try to get into the cheater’s phone). So, look for changing phone habits, and if you happen to see a flurry of new apps on his home screen, ask some questions
2. The Car
More mileage than expected can be a bad sign (more trips, and extra stops in new places that aren’t your place and work, i.e.). A passenger seat that has been adjusted to a new setting can indicate that someone else has been riding shotgun in your place. And of course, like a bedroom, a car can be inhabited by belongings that don’t belong, like hair ties, cosmetics, or even undies that aren’t yours.
3. The Sudden Makeover
Many years ago, a girlfriend of mine started telling me about her husband’s new look. He had lost weight, started going to the gym; he changed his hairstyle and his dressings style. When she told me, my heart sunk. My worst fears were realized when she uncovered that he had, in fact, been having an affair. Significant changes in appearance can be a leading indicator of an affair. New clothes and underwear are red flag city, especially when they represent a trend your partner has no history of caring about and you hadn’t mentioned liking, either. If your partner, who used to love when you did his laundry, or shared in laundry duties with you, suddenly wants to take over doing his own wash, you just may have a problem. Same thing with new bathing habits. The partner that suddenly is racing to the shower after getting home from work is concerning.
4. New Interests and Vocabulary
When your partner suddenly has a totally different Spotify playlist of songs you’ve never even heard of it should raise an eyebrow. Our tastes tend to be influenced by people, especially romantic relationships, when we spend a lot of time with them. The same goes for our vocabulary. We tend to absorb the phrases and expressions of those we spend a lot of time with. If you have noticed a lot of new vocabulary from your partner, you may want to ask about it. The same goes for interests. It is unusual for someone to pick up a new sport or hobby they’ve never even mentioned to their boyfriend or girlfriend out of the blue. If you’re S.O. has suddenly taken up running, try to find out what inspired this sudden change.
5. Changes in Connection
When we are romantically involved with someone, they become our primary person. If you notice that your partner no longer tells you about his day, shares his struggles or talks to you about things that are important to him you have a problem. Connection is key in a relationship and either not having that connection, or that focus going to someone else, is a problem. Changes in sexual frequency, technique or intensity can also give you valuable information. It is not just having less sex, believe it or not, sometimes cheaters actually initiate it more. It can go either way. Our libidos and sexual frequency fluctuate throughout the life cycle of a relationship, even years into marriage; but marked increases or decreases that you’re not talking about can be a bad sign.
6. Money Moves
Sure there’s the obvious credit card statements with jewelry or hotel rooms that you’ve never seen, but there are plenty of other signs to look for. Regular new cash withdrawals are a sign of a partner who does not want to leave a paper trail. New credit cards, junk mail or bank statements from unfamiliar companies may be a sign that they’ve opened separate accounts. Significant changes in gas fill-ups, especially in new neighborhoods, can be a sign of an affair. If your spouse is suddenly working longer hours but you’re not seeing financial results, or hearing about the big project that’s keeping them late, that raises questions.
via: InStyle
