My friend Liz started telling me about her recent problems in the bedroom. Whether or not his new and demanding job has anything to do with it, Liz is unhappy that he seems to be less aroused. She feels as though she is asking for it, whereas she used to be the one being tossed into bed before her shoes came off. “Am I doing something wrong?” She started buying more expensive panties and researching for more tricks in bed. I told her to hold off on criticizing herself until she knows what his deal is.
My next question was whether or not the sex was as good when it finally happened. She said that in fact, the sex was probably better because she had to fight him for it. She told him exactly what she wanted and when he wasn’t going after her, she took it from him. She found herself daydreaming about sex all day because she knew it wouldn’t just be given to her when she got home. I suggested that she have the dreaded conversation with him and just tell him how she feels.
Even after hearing this story, I still can’t imagine a mom telling her son, “Be careful of that girl, she’s only after your dignity…” So what does this say about men? Do you ever feel like you want it more than he does?
Sex Cravings: Do Guys Always Want It More? was originally published on wzakcleveland.com